Why I don't have New Years resolutions...
Why I don't have New Years resolutions...
my therapists' response + AN EXCITING UPDATE!!!
I’ve always loved New Years’.
When I was younger, sure I’d go out and yell with peeps at midnight to a pre-recorded video of a ball drop… when I finally moved out East we pretty much did the same thing (but at least the ball dropping was live). As I got older, I started to dislike the “hype” aspects of it… Having to dress up, having to spend time around a bunch of drunk people, and waiting for a damn uber for an hour, with a few cancellations in between, to take you a few miles for $160 dollars (sometimes not including tip - madness what that could’ve been all of these years) .
As I got older, these parties shifted to smaller gatherings on friends’ roofs. I always loved celebrating with close friends and being able to just walk back to my apartment. Besides the gatherings with quality people in my life, I loved the “newness” feeling of being able to reset, start over etc. but most importantly I loved the reflection that took place, goal setting, and turning wishes into actual plans.
Sometime in my mid 20s when I made the realization that my birthday being almost in the middle of the year, I started checking in with my self then too — a halfway point. Was I working towards the things I said I would?
Some time between my late 20s before I turned 30 I found a cheat — I could start planning “stretch goals”. Not only would I plan these goals to be competed earlier in the year, I started planning them months before the year even ended…. I guess that’s how I leveled up the “SMART” aspect of it.
….2020-2022 I blacked out (not literally but y’all know what I’ve talking about) … I think it was the jungle accident of ‘23 that jolted me awake. I would not only reflect on my yearly goals, but on my life’s meaning and aspirations. Needless to say I’ve been planning for a few months now.
I started by reassessing my support team - therapists to mentors at work and even sponsors. A few months after my accident I realized I needed some serious help and I went into over time…. I would get a new psychiatrist, and career coach to add to my team (in addition to the 8 physical doctor’s I was already seeing).
I went into overdrive and really created some boundaries. I made time for myself and for the first time I can proudly say I invested most in myself in 2023. My team, supporting me along the way.
So why don’t I have New Years resolutions this year?
I was proud of the work I did the last 5 or so months. I created goals for the next 6 months, year, 3-5 years and hell, I made goals that would surpass my lifetime….. I didn’t need a new year to tell me to self reflect. I realized I can harness that energy whenever I wanted, and that is the true magic… and guess what I fell asleep December 31st at 10ish pm :)
When I had my first therapy session of the year, I told my therapist I wasn’t going to do new years resolutions, and her response?
… “yeah… you don’t do them, fuck that”.
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I’ve been a little silent with y’all because an amazing opportunity came out of nowhere!!
I was asked to bring Plant Ma Shop (my lil online plant store fka plant shop out of my apartments in Brooklyn”) to Long Beach!!
Plant Ma Shop is now at Kubo Long Beach!
We’re soft launching in January as I try out different plants and vibes…. stay tuned for events starting in February, and our launch party in March!
